RefinedOne

What you call me, that I am not!

for I know who I am, whose I am and what HE says I am… Beautifully and wonderfully made, crafted and fashioned!

My heart is pure and so are my intentions( can that be said of yours) …yes, I don’t always do the right things, but renewed I am and in Him stand, void of condemnation.

Everyone well dressed and perfectly made up with plastic smiles looking like it’s all under control,

but within hurting, doubting, insecure and in turmoil…Why ?!

‘cos some have chosen to live a lie and not be real to themselves first.

Life is for living…and as one said “Life is what happens when your making plans”

So live the life…

Know yourself…

Be true to yourself…

Love others the way you would be loved and

LIVE!

“Icons @ Artistic License AL 

Watch out for…

1.     The Blamer: This is a person who consistently blames you/or everyone else for their problems. The world and the people in it always seem to create havoc for this person. And instead of taking responsibility for their life, would rather blame others.

2.     The Complainer: This person likes to hear his/her own voice. They consistently complain about what isn’t working in their life and yet get energy from complaining and dumping their frustrations on you.

3.     The Drainer (just run…lol): This is the needy person who calls to ask for your advice, guidance, support, information, advice or what ever they to feel better in that moment (which is not a real problem)…but because of their neediness, the conversation often, if not always revolves around them and you can almost feel the life being sucked out of you during their conversations.

4.     The Shamer (run several miles…lol ):This person can be hazardous to your health. The shamer may cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of you or your ideas in front  of others, often ignores your boundaries and may try and convince you that their criticism is for your own good. The shamer is the kind of person who makes you question your own sanity before them. (Did I say runnnnnnn!!)

5.     The Discounter: This is the person who discounts or challenges everything you say. Often has a strong need to be right and can not find fault with any position they may be standing at that point in time. It can be exhausting to have a conversation with the discounter, so eventually you end up giving in and deciding to just listen.

6.     The Gossip (don’t just give this one the time of day): This person avoids intimacy by talking about others behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions and latest “scoop” by gossiping about others. They create a lack of safety in there relationships, whether they realize it or not. After all if the gossip talks about someone else they will talk about you!

Source: Cheryl Richardson, Author “Take time for your life”

*Sharon’s contribution - The Fire Extinguisher - these ones just keep raining on all your dreams and passions till you’re as washed out as they are.

Feel free to add to this list, would be encouraging to see what we all come up with.

                     Birds of the same feather flock together…

That was one of the sayings my mum loved to quote to warn us as children about bad friendships, another is from the Bible telling us not to be unequally yoked (bridled together) this is mostly used to warn Believers about associating or marrying an unbelievers (one who did not accpect  Jesus as Lord and saviour) 

 I think it can be used among believers too,simply saying be careful who you hang with believer or unbeliever…anyway I digress

We grow not just physically, intellectually and mentally, but hopefully with wisdom and discernment too. I say discernment cos the older we get, the margin for error are reduced and so careless mistakes should be avoided at all cost, for the damage could be one that may never be replaced or fixed.

Moving from one level to another in life in what ever area, be it in family relationship, work, education or career would be determined by our association…Who you mix with, Who you are listening to and spending time with, whether you like it or believe it will effect how well or bad you grow…What you think, How you think and What you do.

There is a time for everything, I personally feel I’m in my time for doing …stepping out and actualizing all the learning and preparation, so my associations are very important and am very protective of what am hearing, seeing and doing. I must be with people I can learn from, stable (mentally and emotionally), mature, positive and goal driven.

I guess I would like to live the rest of my life full, fun and purposeful with as little drama as possible…not much to ask now is it?

Identify the birds you flock with … How inspiring are they? What is their added value in your life?  Are you the one always pouring out and never receiving?

AL, fresh thinking and creative, AL has a way of getting you to question and examine issues that shape our thought process…logic, lifestyle, culture and society.

AL is inspirational, alternative, clean or as some would say…ultra minimal (I like that one J ) 

To get to know more about AL you would have to be ready to “take the road less travelled” …and come step into the white box.

AL: ARTISTIC LICENSE   

Contemporary Art Gallery

@230, Muri Okunola st,

Victoria Island, Lagos,

 Nigeria.

Exhibition On at the moment…

THE ROAD LESS TRAVELLED.

Artist: Alex Nwokolo

Date   : Sunday 27^th April- 18^th May 2008

BELIEVE.

To Believe! To be Brave!

Take Courage! Take the Chance!

Make the Leap! Make it Happen!

Don’t Give Up! Don’t Give up on You!

Keep the dream alive! Keep the Faith!

Dream! Dream!! Dream Big!!!

Never Give Up!

Hi  guys, yes it has been way too long , guess settling down back home has had it’s own challenge, but still good. Kids are in school and I have my projects. Its been hectic and fun all rolled into one, finding out new and “amazing” things about my people(lol). My children are loving there school, that had its own challenge, but was expected…. the Nigerian educational system is very good, but IMHO still needs to not just train children on how to pass exams but why they are learning and how to apply learning ( topic for another time )

…Anyway will be back soon, just had to stop by and say Hey!

Help!!!

I have a little project I need to research .  So anyone that has lived or lives in the Northern part of Nigeria please your contribution would be much appreciated.

I need to about what life is like for a woman/young lay in the northern. how it effects your choice of life style, education. social life, marriage/relationship, family life and all sorts of general gist. email Refined74@googlemail.com

Do you know that with only =N= 10.00

 (Ten naira) a day you can….

·        Make a difference in the life of an orphan/less privileged child?

·        You can feed not only the belly but the mind of a less privileged child?

The naira a day initiative is a concerted effort to raise funds to feed at least fifteen thousand less privileged children over the next 12 months.

Through out 2008, by giving a minimum of four thousand naira (which will translate to less than 10 naira a day) you will be ensuring that the disadvantaged children will have access to a good meal and a level of basic quality education.

Linkachild will be working with partner organisations to achieve these set goals.

We invite you to partner with us by making a minimum donation of N4000 on or before Monday March 31st 2008 to be a part of making the future better for the less privileged.

*Cheques should be made payable to LINKACHILD (A Naira A Day Initiative)

                  Join us lets build the future together…

–

TyBello {Passion renewed}

chorus

the land is green - it’s green
ooooh
the land is green - it’s green
can’t you see?
the harvest is ready
‘cuz the Lord of the harvest told me so
it’s green - it’s green for me
it’s green - it’s green for me

verse 2

bridge
i thought it was over
thought You were done with me
but we’re just beginning oh my life is a journey
i will walk with You
i will go where You want me to yes i will go

chorus 2

the land is green - it’s green
ooooh
the land is green - it’s green
can’t you see?
repeat 3 xs
the harvest is ready ‘cuz He told me so
it’s green and it’s all mine

© Ty Bello

    Asa { Purpose and destiny, its all about Others}

…soon come!