Love is demonstrative, it’s active, because we have been and are loved by God.
It did not say you love because you feel like only. or love only those that deserve your love, but love without expecting anything in return. By the way Love has been described as a human experience that is manifested in feelings be it in behaviour, emotion or attitude to others in relationship or of one’s self.
The bible says Love is an attitude and action that is not determined by feelings or positive response from others deserving or undeserving. We can’t talk about Love and not quote 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails.
Love is more than a feeling!
That can only be possible if you operate in God’s kind of love(Agape). The other kinds of love are a lot more based on Feelings, a more self centred love-sexual desire and physical craving, Erotic love (Eros). Affections in a loving concern to a friend, brotherly- love (Phileos)
When we realize that the best, safest kind of love is the God kind, not one base on feeling, cos feelings are changeable, unstable and can’t be truly trusted. They have the ability of distorting the truth.
Feelings are good indictors of Love, but still that can be tested…..
lets look at marriage which is made up of two people committed to one another in Love not feelings…..Marriage is not sustained by just the feelings you get in the earlier days of courtship, when your man/woman walks in to a room or you think about them….. :) Remember when you were dating, and your partner could not upset, cos you felt so happy! looking in to there eyes and dreaming of a future with them forever…when he picks from your food at dinner you thought it was oh! so cute 
…but couple of year into marriage that same thing you found cute now irritated you so!…
Well feelings will not keep you married for long, cos you are guaranteed to have bumps along the way … In fact you will feel hate for your partner at some time in the journey of your marriage.
So what holds a marriage and keeps it strong during the times of shaking? …. but a vow, a commitment, a decision.
Love is not optional….Feelings are…Love is foundation, a corner stone nothing can be built without it….Feeling are ever changing.
So what do you pick??
Thanks again for sharing your thoughts with the blogging world!
In Jesus,
Maria in the UK
http://www.inhishands.co.uk
i pick love and pray for the grace to pay its price.
I pick LOVE…sprinkled with a dash of understanding, wrapped in commitment, and presented with selflessness…(striving to be first partaker of that tall order….=])
@ Maria, that what I’m about
@Shola, Amen! to that.
@ Asheselah, I pick Love all over again if you put it like that
Nice one and thanks for stopping by…
I pick neither.
With agape, we’ve got no choice.
When it comes to relationships; for me, an attraction makes me look at the other a second time then, a likness (it could be for a certain attribute sometimes, for no one precise reason) which if nutured leads to feelings…
In this case, i have a choice to love; this a committal.
I haven’t made a comment previously because I have been reflecting on the thoughts expressed in this article.
The conclusion that I have come up with is that love is required when you’re involved in any relationship with individulas be it your partner, your family or friends.
Even our relationship with god has to be based on love. I’m sure we can all relate to those days when we don’t feel like we want to pray,or read our bible. However when we reflect upon his grace and mercy we have no other choice than to love.
So I suppose my choice is love.
Nice one…..
I even saved your page to my desktop so I can read it over again, when I need to be reminded what love is.
Have a wonderful week ahead!
@ Alicia..good to take your time on this subject, cos there is a very fine line between the two….but Love always stands out and sustains.
@Nilla, thanks and you are welcome….another place to save and look up about love is… every page of the love letter to us by our God, Father and lover of our soul…The bible
LOVE vrs FEELING…
In my opinion feeling is a part of Love. You can not separate feelings from Love. Love without feeling, without passion, without that crazy sickening feeling is…like my attachment to a strange fellow in Somalia. I am Love Chelsea FC and there is a lot of passion and FEELINGS in there, I love my Laptop and there is a lot of passions and attachment to it, I love my friends and I could blow up the … to keep them alive, how much more that special person I’ll be stuck with my whole life. There has to be FEELINGS, FIREWORKS, STARS, LIGHTENINGS, RAINBOWS and all the beauties of the heavenliess…and if it aint there and it can’t be created…someone please show me the door.
Wow!! @ 4mytyme, you sure have alot luv to give…
all the best with that…thanks 4 stopping by.
Coming across your post in the post Val’s day is quite nice. Well, just to note I didn’t celebrate or mark V-Day, as a matter of fact, I celebrated Anti-Valentine’s Day
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Love vs Feeling… well, really I will have to support 4mytyme a bit…there ain’t no love without feeling. Agape love is a whole different ball game…no human is capable of doing that. I think we should all try to understand the limits of a human’s capability to love and live with it.
I like the article. Very helpful to me in understanding the difference/relationship between Love and feelings. I realise that its possible to have feelings without love and you dont need feelings to show or express love. Most of all, the love in Corth 13: 4-8 is real love.