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Some birds you don’t want to be flocking with…

In Choice, Confidence, Courage, Crisis, Dating, Encouragement, Friendship, Life, Relationship, Self esteem, woman on May 21, 2008 at 3:20 pm

 

Watch out for…

1.     The Blamer: This is a person who consistently blames you/or everyone else for their problems. The world and the people in it always seem to create havoc for this person. And instead of taking responsibility for their life, would rather blame others.

 

2.     The Complainer: This person likes to hear his/her own voice. They consistently complain about what isn’t working in their life and yet get energy from complaining and dumping their frustrations on you.

 

3.     The Drainer (just run…lol): This is the needy person who calls to ask for your advice, guidance, support, information, advice or what ever they to feel better in that moment (which is not a real problem)…but because of their neediness, the conversation often, if not always revolves around them and you can almost feel the life being sucked out of you during their conversations.

 

4.     The Shamer (run several miles…lol ):This person can be hazardous to your health. The shamer may cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of you or your ideas in front  of others, often ignores your boundaries and may try and convince you that their criticism is for your own good. The shamer is the kind of person who makes you question your own sanity before them. (Did I say runnnnnnn!!)

 

5.     The Discounter: This is the person who discounts or challenges everything you say. Often has a strong need to be right and can not find fault with any position they may be standing at that point in time. It can be exhausting to have a conversation with the discounter, so eventually you end up giving in and deciding to just listen.

 

6.     The Gossip (don’t just give this one the time of day): This person avoids intimacy by talking about others behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions and latest “scoop” by gossiping about others. They create a lack of safety in there relationships, whether they realize it or not. After all if the gossip talks about someone else they will talk about you!

 

Source: Cheryl Richardson, Author “Take time for your life”

*Sharon’s contribution – The Fire Extinguisher – these ones just keep raining on all your dreams and passions till you’re as washed out as they are.

Feel free to add to this list, would be encouraging to see what we all come up with.

 

 

 

  1. Oh and one more! The Fire Extinguisher – these ones just keep raining on all your dreams and passions till you’re as washed out as they are.

    Got that one from my dad. Love reading your posts.

  2. Lol!!!@Sharon, I like that one… will be adding it …thanks for stopping by and you are welcome.

  3. One more. The prophets of ‘No- it can’t be done’. They do nothing themselves but wait for you to come up with something which they promptly discount.

    Maybe one more. The romance ‘Bermuda triangles’. They have no love or romance in their lives and if they see you showing any kind of affection to your spouse, they frown and say, ‘e go soon taya you’